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Attracting someone of the opposite sex can be hit or miss. That 50-50 chance can make some people strive for perfection and obsess over things they shouldn’t. Today, we’re talking about the things women unnecessarily dwell on to impress men—things that, in reality, only do the opposite. These behaviors range from the typical scenarios, like playing hard to get, to fixating too much on appearances during moments of physical intimacy. These responses were from a few men who decided to get real on Reddit a few years ago. Scroll down to see what they said. #1Acting dumb to look cute...we just see it as dumb.© Photo: LukeTheGroundwalker#2I used to fly small, single engine planes a lot. I took a girl with me once and she was self-conscious about her glasses and didn’t wear them and subsequently couldn’t see anything past the instrument panel and it was a beautiful fall day and I flew over Letchworth State Park. I knew she had coke-bottle glasses and I was still super-interested in her. I lost interest because she was too self-conscious to get something out of a thing I loved and wanted to share with her.© Photo: anon#3I'm a woman but I think cellulite is a winner here. One of my boyfriends didn't even know what it was. I showed him pictures but the only thing he saw was butt.© Photo: DameBlancheFramboise#4It’s nice if you sit down and watch the football with me, but if you’re doing it just to impress me with fake interest, I would rather you be genuine and do your own thing and join me after.© Photo: hifromsydney#5Trying to be/act sassy and stuff like that. Not only do most men not like it, but they really dislike it too. It makes them feel like they’re raising a spoiled kid, not being with an equal partner.© Photo: anon#6Buying you tons of weird cheeses. Like I cannot fit anymore cheese in my home please stop. Cheese is exciting at first but there is such a thing as too much.Edit: I was unaware this is unusual. All the women I’ve dated have always bought me cheese and now I’m wondering if it’s something I’m doing.© Photo: The_Real_Raw_Gary#7How their mid section looks during love-making. I've known a couple of girls who try to cover up their belly/love handles when it comes time to get down either by keeping their top on or hugging themselves. The truth is, if you've gotten that far, the guy more than likely doesn't care about the tiny bit of cushion you got there, he probably likes it.© Photo: chestyCough94#8Lips. Collagen, botox, or whatever injections chasing some fake inner tube inflated dream when really they look grotesque. Thin lips look good. Big lips look bad look on everyone and it confounds me that people do it to themselves.© Photo: sevaninja#9When they think not saying they are into me is a sign of intrest... I'm a dumb man, with no time to keep reading people. If you decline, ignore me and other stuff, I just don't care... Had 3 girls once tell me why I didn't write anymore, or went harder. And simple isn't worth it, especially if you wanna do that in a relationship.© Photo: Cyberkite#10I'm probably older and more married than most in this thread, but my wife seems obsessed with the idea that every woman in my family has to just think she is the best.I get it. She's from a very tight-nit, rural family. Even extended family members like cousins are very close. When someone in their family is offended by something, they get really sassy with each other and backstabby. An example might be someone didn't get invited to go on a camping trip, and feel like they should have been invited, now they won't show up to the next thing out of spite. Mind you, these people get together like twice a month minimum. They are all up in each other's business all the time.So my wife is super afraid of not being liked in my family. She's terrified that if we don't go to something, or we don't buy a nice enough gift, etc, that she's going to shunned or something. But my family isn't like that. We all live in different cities and rarely see each other. We're just happy to see each other, the few times a year we do. We don't usually sweat stuff like that.But I think she still believes that she's letting me down and being a bad wife if all the women in my family don't just adore her. The thing is, they do. They have all loved her from the very beginning because she's great.© Photo: anon#11Just "looking good" or "i look to ugly to go in there" is dumb. Its a Walmart you don't have to look like a Hollywood wedding.© Photo: ICE-13#12Acting stupid and a "save me" syndrome . Huge turn off.© Photo: anon#13Fake eyelashesThey look like a cheap spider Halloween decoration is stuck to your eyelids.© Photo: anon#14I don't notice the shoes. Maybe I notice how they posture you, but I certainly don't notice designs or brands. Same with handbags/purses - but I do think the utilitarian "about to go on an adventure" ones are kind of cool.I've been told that those are status things intended to be seen by other women, though.© Photo: mindfeces#15I seriously don't care if you can make loops out of vape . I just don't care.© Photo: benchmate#16You're gonna get a different answer depending on who you ask, but I for one adore really tall women. Especially if they're taller than me.© Photo: A_man_called_X#17I would say all the makeup, nails and beauty stuff but I've realized that they just do it for themselves so fair play to them.© Photo: anon#18I'm a girl... but my friends do this; constantly being late and thinking that it makes them 'cute' somehow.© Photo: IveUsedTwentyLetters#19The whole “playful but hard to get” act. A lot of guys are into it but I personally that’s a huge turn off. I can’t read mixed signals, anything mixed I read as a “no”. And quite frankly I don’t have the time or the patience to figure out someone who’s probably not even interested in me. No wonder I’m single.© Photo: anon#20I must be weird, but I think a little bit of acne/braces/glasses are cute.© Photo: anon#21Those effects that they add to their pictures or videos, like hearts added to make themselves seem more cute. Instantly walk away.© Photo: MettaMorphosis#22My partner and I were watching telly and there was a commercial for Dove deodorant. He looked over and told me that he’d never thought about my armpits. It was very romantic.© Photo: radasfack#23The majority of things listed here are done more for a woman's confidence in her self, and less for actual attention from a man. The fact that the term "dad bod" is a celebrated term, while "mom jeans" is not should be proof that men (some of you) are great at being comfortable in their own skin, while women (even after we manage to nurture and produce a tiny human) still place too much value on our appearance over reality.Studies have shown that men have truck loads more confidence than women (we love that you guys do! It is super attractive!)... Is it really so bad if we try to boost our own confidence artificially? I'm Not being judgmental by any means. I am genuinely curious, since men dislike our beauty rituals, but also dislike women who lack confidence. What's the guy secret to unwavering confidence? Is it a case of fake it til ya make it? Inquiring mind(s) want(s) to know. LOL.© Photo: GRITSonamission#24A tan. After a certain point you just look like a leather handbag. Chill.© Photo: y2kizzle#25These responses from guys saying women should be more natural, hmm ok.. but men are more likely to approach a woman who is dressed up... hair, makeup, nails, jewelry than one who isn'tEdit: Sorry, didn't mean to offend anyone I was making a casual comment on a general observation. It seems most guys on Reddit prefer women with little to no makeup. It's been interesting reading responses.© Photo: Vitamin__S#26For any women reading this: Stop trying to outdrink me/any man you're into. Unless you're bigger than him (which isn't particularly common) you're just gonna throw up over his shoes. Source: Have new shoes.© Photo: Dogstile#27Duck face.© Photo: Cymry_Cymraeg#28Makeup.Also, +1 just for saying ***couldn't*** care less instead of could care less, f**k knows why so many people in the US get that backwards.© Photo: Totallycasual#29ITT: tons of things men assume Women do to impress them and not just because they like looking cute.#30I once had a female roommate tell me that men loved it when she acted all helpless around them,as it made them feel like like protectors or somesuch.When she demonstrated, at my request, I shuddered in disgust. Maybe some men like it, but I understood that day that I really like independent women who don't need me. Makes it clear that they're with me because they want to.#31The cosmetics are fine, because I know it can give a woman a confidence boost, but i could take it or leave it. Now if there is no personality, or they are inconsiderate or racist it’s over.#32If a woman is interested in something men are its cool but i couldn’t care less if you do mx. its cool that u do it but dont think i love you because of it. see a lot of girls fall for this trap.#33When girls lie about their height to seem shorter, like in 6'4. Idc of you're 4'11 or 5'9 you're short to me either way.#34It’s 2020, ladies. Live for yourself. Don’t let men dictate what is good or bad (or other women for that matter).#35Acting overly “cutsey”Just act like your normal self. If you try too hard to be cute, you look exactly that, like you’re trying too hard. Just let your natural self flow and a couple guys will probably like you. Ive known this girl try to act wayy too much like a cute anime girl, and it was so obvious she was copying the anime she watched to be “cute,” it was almost painful to watch.#36Turning off shows I don't like when she is watching then. I tell her I am gonna read while she watches it so I don't care.#37Married dude here. My wife makes a big deal about apologizing for having hairy legs. It doesn't bother me in the slightest, but she definitely thinks it does. I'm very surprised I didn't see this higher up in the comments. If it is for her, then shave away, but I imagine it is incredibly tedious. I cannot even fathom how much time it would take to shave my legs.#38Please don't do lips augmentation, in 99,9999% of cases girls look worse after and we couldn't care less.#39Coming from a guy who's preferred type is naturally pale redheads. Anything to do with tanning or make up.. Trying to change the complexion of your skin. Like why? #40Tan linesMajority of my female friends obsess over tan lines and get super self conscious over them, but if I’m being honest I think most guys can agree that we do not care if you have a beach bod tan or a farmers tan, as long as your skin doesn’t look like you spent the last decade in a dark room, you’re probably fine.#41No man cares about your eye brows unless they’re joined together or you shaved them off. Filling your eyebrows into a half inch thick square of make up is only appealing to other women.#42Not a man, but my boyfriend told me men don't notice women's jewelry. I. Love. Jewelry. I don't wear expensive jewelry but have lots of interesting, unusual earrings. I get compliments from lots of women and I love them, but I can see how guys just shrug.#43Bringing up and boasting too much about their accomplishments and trying to build a perfect image of themselves in an effort to mask their less ideal aspects of their life. Sure, a well rounded and accomplished person is always a plus, but they certainly don’t go out of their way to bring them up whenever they can just to boost their self-esteem.#44Heels. They make your feet hurt and if they don't fit properly, they can even cause damage and make your feet ugly.It would be better for everyone if you wore tennis shoes instead.#45Sports, I’m a big nerd myself and know pretty much nothing about any sport. But for whatever reason women who really try to I guess relate to me immediately default to talking about sports. I always appreciate their efforts in the conversation, but sadly couldn’t care less about sports so I quickly steer the conversation somewhere else.#46Eyebrows. They get sooo much attention. But that’s not all I browse.#47When they think smoking is cool...it’s not.#48I'm a woman, but I'd like to say something on this. After years of, "Honey, can you open this jar," me acting like I was the "weaker" gender... We divorced. And you know what?!! I could no longer open the freakin' jars!!! Talk about mad... Stroked his ego so much, that I robbed myself of pickles that first stint of our separation. Gals! Open yer own jars, I beg of you! LOL. Take this both figuratively and literally. Source:Boredpanda

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